Northville Schools on school safety
Updated On: Dec 17 2012 02:34:16 PM EST
Dear Northville School Families, Staff and Community Members,
- We all struggle to understand how and why senseless violence can impact our schools and our communities, and we grieve for the children, teachers, families and community of Newtown, Connecticut, whose lives are forever impacted by the tragic events today in Newtown.
- Parents often ask how they can best support their children and young adults as they too grapple with news of incomprehensible tragedy. The attached document from the National Association of School Psychologists provides some helpful information about talking with children about violence.
- There are several key messages, reinforced in the attached document, that are important to keep in mind:
- Limit exposure to the media - radio, television, online. Developmentally inappropriate information can cause anxiety or confusion, particularly in young children. Adults also need to be mindful of the conversations that they have with each other in front of children, even teenagers, and limit their exposure to vengeful, hateful, and angry comments that may be misunderstood.
- Reassure children of their safety in our schools. Our school staff works with students, parents, our local police and fire departments, and community leaders to keep our schools as safe as possible
- Our schools have a daily security plan in place, we limit access to our schools by locking our doors and monitoring who comes in and out, we practice drills to keep everyone safe, and we ask everyone to be watchful and to report anything that seems out of the ordinary. We have supervision in our hallways and on our playgrounds, and we have police liaison officers from Northville Township Police Department who work directly with our schools, students and families.
- Everybody plays a role in keeping our school safe. Be observant and let an adult know if you see or hear something that makes you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened. There is a difference between reporting and tattling or gossiping.
- Senseless violence is hard for everyone to understand. Doing things you enjoy, sticking to a normal routine, being with friends and family help make us feel better and keep us from worrying about the event.
- Violence is never a solution to personal problems. Students can be a part of the positive solution by participating in anti?violence programs at school, learning conflict resolution skills, and seeking help from an adult if they or a peer are struggling with anger, depression or other emotions they cannot control. Programs like positive behavior support, peer mediators, Leader in Me, and playground conflict managers are ways that we work on these skills at school.
Please know that our teachers and school staff will reinforce these same messages (including those referenced in the attached document) at school as appropriate. As always, our school principals and social workers are available should you have questions, or would like help in addressing concerns your child may express. Thank you, as always, for partnering with Northville Public Schools to work together to keep our children safe, and able to focus on learning in a caring and supportive school environment.
Mary K. Gallagher
Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers
High profile acts of violence, particularly in schools, can confuse and frighten children who may feel in danger or worry that their friends or loved-ones are at risk. They will look to adults for information and guidance on how to react. Parents and school personnel can help children feel safe by establishing a sense of normalcy and security and talking with them about their fears.
1. Reassure children that they are safe. Emphasize that schools are very safe. Validate their feelings. Explain that all feelings are okay when a tragedy occurs. Let children talk about their feelings, help put them into perspective, and assist them in expressing these feelings appropriately.
2. Make time to talk. Let their questions be your guide as to how much information to provide. Be patient. Children and youth do not always talk about their feelings readily. Watch for clues that they may want to talk, such as hovering around while you do the dishes or yard work. Some children prefer writing, playing music, or doing an art project as an outlet. Young children may need concrete activities (such as drawing, looking at picture books, or imaginative play) to help them identify and express their feelings.
3. Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate. Early elementary school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that their school and homes are safe and that adults are there to protect them. Give simple examples of school safety like reminding children about exterior doors being locked, child monitoring efforts on the playground, and emergency drills practiced during the school day.
Upper elementary and early middle school children will be more vocal in asking questions about whether they truly are safe and what is being done at their school. They may need assistance separating reality from fantasy. Discuss efforts of school and community leaders to provide safe schools.
Upper middle school and high school students will have strong and varying opinions about the causes of violence in schools and society. They will share concrete suggestions about how to make school safer and how to prevent tragedies in society. Emphasize the role that students have in maintaining safe schools by following school safety guidelines (e.g. not providing building access to strangers, reporting strangers on campus, reporting threats to the school safety made by students or community members, etc.), communicating any personal safety concerns to school administrators, and accessing support for emotional needs.
4. Review safety procedures. This should include procedures and safeguards at school and at home. Help children identify at least one adult at school and in the community to whom they go if they feel threatened or at risk.
5. Observe children's emotional state. Some children may not express their concerns verbally. Changes in behavior, appetite, and sleep patterns can indicate a child's level of anxiety or discomfort. In most children, these symptoms will ease with reassurance and time. However, some children may be at risk for more intense reactions. Children who have had a past traumatic experience or personal loss, suffer from depression or other mental illness, or with special needs may be at greater risk for severe reactions than others. Seek the help of mental health professional if you are at all concerned.6. Limit television viewing of these events. Limit television viewing and be aware if the television is on in common areas. Developmentally inappropriate information can cause anxiety or confusion, particularly in young children. Adults also need to be mindful of the content of conversations that they have with each other in front of children, even teenagers, and limit their exposure to vengeful, hateful, and angry comments that might be misunderstood.
7. Maintain a normal routine. Keeping to a regular schedule can be reassuring and promote physical health. Ensure that children get plenty of sleep, regular meals, and exercise. Encourage them to keep up with their schoolwork and extracurricular activities but don't push them if they seem overwhelmed.
Suggested Points to Emphasize When Talking to Children
Schools are safe places. School staff work with parents and public safety providers (local police and fire departments, emergency responders, hospitals, etc.) to keep you safe.
The school building is safe because … (cite specific school procedures).
We all play a role in the school safety. Be observant and let an adult know if you see or hear something that makes you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened.
There is a difference between reporting, tattling or gossiping. You can provide important information that may prevent harm either directly or anonymously by telling a trusted adult what you know or hear.
Don't dwell on the worst possibilities. Although there is no absolute guarantee that something bad will never happen, it is important to understand the difference between the possibility of something happening and the probability that it will affect our school.
Senseless violence is hard for everyone to understand. Doing things that you enjoy, sticking to your normal routine, and being with friends and family help make us feel better and keep us from worrying about the event.
Sometimes people do bad things that hurt others. They may be unable to handle their anger, under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or suffering from mental illness. Adults (parents, teachers, police officers, doctors, faith leaders) work very hard to get those people help and keep them from hurting others. It is important for all of us to know how to get help if we feel really upset or angry and to stay away from drugs and alcohol.
Stay away from guns and other weapons. Tell an adult if you know someone has a gun. Access to guns is one of the leading risk factors for deadly violence.
Violence is never a solution to personal problems. Students can be part of the positive solution by participating in anti-violence programs at school, learning conflict mediation skills, and seeking help from an adult if they or a peer is struggling with anger, depression, or other emotions they cannot control.
NASP has additional information for parents and educators on school safety, violence prevention, children's trauma reactions, and crisis response at www.nasponline.org.
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Statement from Superintendent
Northville Public Schools have a daily security plan in place, we limit access to our schools by locking our doors and monitoring who comes in and out, we practice drills to keep everyone safe, and we ask everyone to be watchful and to report anything that seems out of the ordinary. We have supervision in our hallways and on our playgrounds, and we have police liaison officers from Northville Township Police Department who work directly with our schools, students and families.